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The Alchemist Review is Coming Soon!

I know. My blog is inspired by the book and I have yet to write on my impressions. Truth is that I have started a draft post and have been adding to it more and more. I wrote a huge chunk about it today, but it seems as if thoughts are coming in waves, which I actually like. It makes me feel like lessons from the book will never fully leave me. I am constantly being reminded of scenes from the book in my daily life, which fills me with excitement! I like that such positive thoughts are filling my mind throughout the day. It’s a nice change and I plan to run with it!

But, I am even more excited because I have found my wedding vows! I am a hopeful romantic… yes, that’s correct, hopeful, not less, because I have a love to anticipate. I even have another blog devoted to weddings, marriage, and romance. It’s a work in progress, but I have enjoyed developing it. And to further demonstrate my romantic streak, I will gladly confess that I write to my future husband. I have never had a boyfriend, yet alone a date, but I keep a journal of love letters that I write to my future husband. I plan to give it to him on our first night as man and wife. So, now that you get the full picture of my romantic ways, you can appreciate my delight in finding the words that I will say to him on our wedding day. It’s a quote by Paulo Coelho, whose work is truly the most eloquent and richly affecting that I have ever encountered (aside from the Bible, of course – ::smile::). But here it is:

In this world there is always
one person waiting for another,
be it in the middle of a desert
or in the middle of a big city.
And when those two people pass each other
and their eyes meet,
past and future lose all importance,
and the only thing that exists
is that moment and the incredible certainty
that everything under the sun
was written by the same Hand,
the Hand that awakens Love,
and that makes a twin soul for everyone who works,
rests and seeks treasures under the sun.
Without this our human dreams
would make no sense.

– Paulo Coelho, Maktub

I will add to this my own personalized sentiments afterwards, but is that not just the purest of truths and professions? Here is hoping my future husband does not read this blog! 🙂 Be blessed.

P.S. I am reading Paulo Coelho’s Eleven Minutes now, per the suggestion of a friend. It is really good so far! Any suggestions as to which Coelho book I should read next?

Marriage & Timing

It’s the summer, and as I mentioned in a previous post, summer = marriage is on my mind. Another blogger had a link to this article about the right timing for marriage: Get Married or Break Up . I agreed with some of what the article said, but then I disagreed with other things it said.

I agree that the longer a couple is dating, the more difficult it is to maintain the dating relationship. To me, the ultimate purpose of dating is to marry, so naturally, I believe, the dynamics of a relationship progress toward that ultimate goal. I do believe that at a point, two people can reach a point where they’re just acting through the motions of their dating relationship. It fizzles, if you will, and that ultimate (marriage) connection is just not there. But I just don’t agree with this timetable that they’ve set up. It adds so much pressure to dating. Like, “a year’s gone by and he hasn’t proposed. Time to hop off this boat so I can make the next sail in time.” I just can’t accept that you’re supposed to know if you want to marry someone in that short of a time! I’ve always said to myself that I would wait at least 2 or 3 years before even getting engaged. But I also feel premature in such conclusions since I still have yet to even go on a date with someone. Yes… entering my 20’s without even the experience of a date. Perhaps I just can’t relate to the mindset of the dating person. Is it possible to really know after only 6 months or a year that you want to marry someone? Since entering college, I’ve heard so many accounts from adults of how they and their spouse married after only a couple months of dating. This seems like such a foreign concept to me

Haha, right as I typed that Coldplay’s song, “Death and all His Friends” played my playlist. The line, “Let’s get married,” stuck out like a sore thumb. haha. That and “don’t worry.” Is it trying to speak to me?

By the way, the song is so beautiful. I suggest you take a listen if you haven’t heard it yet. Actually, listen to the whole album (Viva la Vida). The entire cd is fantastic.

COLDPLAY\'S NEW BEST ALBUM!

But back to my topic, maybe I have qualms about marrying quickly because of the advice I’ve received from my mom. My parent’s marriage has had it’s ups and downs… or perhaps I should flip that around. There seem to be more unhappy times than happy. She’s always advised me to pay close attention to the character of the person I date and not to write off tell-tail signs as insignificant traits. In other words, maintain a level head in love. I think this is great advice, personally. I have friends who are willing to overlook some major personality flaws just to keep the person they’re dating, which is a risky thing, in my view. But, given the importance of learning a person’s character, how on earth can a person accomplish that in 6 mos to a year’s time? That just seems way too short when you factor in the reality that people are not always their most honest self at the beginning of a relationship and take time to peel the layers to reveal the truth. Some people can’t even accomplish that after a great period of time and you end up with some surprises regardless. But still, isn’t it better to reduce the surprises as much as possible by dating longer?

Now I totally agree with the article when it talks about the increased difficulty to remain physically pure the longer a relationship continues. I have abstinent friends who have warned me on the difficulties of withstanding sexual temptation once in a relationship. So sex definitely poses as a reason to push for a fast marriage, but then… listen to what was just said? Doesn’t that imply that sex should motivate a couple’s marriage? As if they’re getting married for sex? So, I have to shoot that reason down as well. If you’re dedicated to fulfilling Christ’s mandate for physical purity in marriage, then I would hope that you and your partner would each dedicate yourself to remaining pure. Now please, don’t mistake me for some doe-eyed naive girl. I am a realist, and although I am abstinent, I realize that sexual temptation is very real and can only imagine how much more intense it is when one is involved in a relationship. I’m sure there are times when some Christian couples come darn close to going all the way, but, as a woman of faith, I know that faith can overcome one’s physical desire. Although I would hope, my Christian brothers and sisters, that you wouldn’t let yourself get so close! “Don’t start none, won’t be none,” I always say!

If you’re not a Christian, having a spiritual relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, then what I just said may not make any sense to you. You may be asking yourself, “How on earth can faith defeat my in-the-moment physical need for sex?” It can and it does for those truly devoted to abstaining from sex.

This next article, however, I agree with wholly: Get Married, Young Man. In fact, after reading it, I feel a peace about not dating now, about the whole “timing of marriage” issue, and about my concerns on when I’ll start dating and finally marry. I’ll explain more on this later. Right now, it’s time to get intimate with my pillow. SLEEP!

Weddings…

This is a digression from my “self-discovery”… or is it? Well, anyhow, I’ve re-entered my Wedding kick. I’ve always been smitten with weddings, but I notice that my interest in them seems to heighten once summer hits. Well, it’s that time of year again! Here are some great, lesser-known wedding sites/blogs that I have found. Just thought I’d share the love…
http://blogs1.marthastewart.com/weddings/

http://thepreppywedding.blogspot.com/

http://fayeandgreer.blogspot.com/search/label/Real%20Weddings

http://www.stylemepretty.com/2008/04/unique-weddi-16.html

http://snippetandink.blogspot.com/2007/09/board-5-autumn-air.html

http://inthisinstance.blogspot.com/

http://wedding.blogdig.net/

There are more… maybe I’ll post them later. Also, I was able to find information on some beautiful wedding rituals traditionally practiced by the Sioux and Cherokee tribes, both of which I belong. Check out these sites, if you’re interested: http://www.manataka.org/page348.html and http://www.ehow.com/how_18840_native-american-wedding.html I have more sites, but I’ll share them in a future post. Until later then. Toodles…